I used to be deeply uncomfortable being seen. I never raised my hand. If I spoke, I would overthink everything and replay it later. I built my life around staying small — choosing what felt safe instead of what I actually wanted.

At the same time, I had big dreams. I wanted to help people. I felt called to meaningful work. But fear ran the show. I coped with my insecurities through self-destruction and addiction, numbing what I didn’t know how to face.

For a long time, I thought I just needed more confidence, a better mindset, more courage…

But through years of inner work and training as an Integral Regression Therapist, I discovered my fear of being seen wasn’t a mindset issue — it was a nervous system response. My body didn’t feel safe being visible.

When I started resolving the roots behind that fear, things changed. Speaking became easier. I stopped obsessing over how I was perceived. I could be in front of people without my heart racing or my stomach tightening. Confidence stopped being something I forced — it became a state of being.

Today, I facilitate groups, speak publicly, and run my own business using my voice online. Not because I pushed through fear, but because I resolved what was underneath it.

That lived experience is why I do this work.

I know what it’s like to feel capable and called — yet held back by something you can’t think your way out of. And I know how powerful it is when that pattern finally releases.